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This morning…
This morning I saw my favourite jogger. I didn't know there was such a thing. As I sipped my coffee and glanced out my window onto the street below I could see a figure clad all in black (ninja style) complete with facial covering. Rhythmically, the ninja jogger...
Forgiveness
I have been very angry these past weeks. I have spoken harshly to joggers who would run up right behind me without warning and pass me as if social distancing did not apply to them. I have lost it when the wife of the jogger that cut right in front of me less than a...
I’m being careful
My brother and husband both had terminal cancer. But, it was respiratory infections that ended their lives. Not covid-19 type of viral infections - just plain old regular respiratory infections. None of their caregivers were ill. The viruses were introduced into their...
Widow Wednesday #11 Start with the small things
Gratitude is both next to impossible and essential when we are grieving. Don’t even think that I’m going to that place of being grateful because your loved one is no longer suffering or in heaven. That sort of thinking is flawed. That sort of gratitude is very messy...
Finding Gratitude through Living
At 18 I dove into the ocean of gratitude and never found shore ~Dr. Patch Adams~ What are you waiting for?
Things not to say
1. Is he still alive? I thought he’d be dead by now. 2. But she lives in such a nice neighbourhood. I’m surprised she goes to AA. (only poor people are alcoholics?) 3. Wow! What did she do to deserve that? Upon learning that my brother and husband died 18 months...
Widow Wednesday #10
Widow Wednesday
Messages of love
Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.
-Rumi
Pretty much everyone I know who has lost a loved one has told me a story of how they believed their loved one showed up in another form after they died. The time has come to accept these happenings as valid as well as valuable.
One of the Greatest Things Ever (so far)
A friend and I recently watched her '70 something year old' cousin marry her '90 something year old' fiancée. It was a beautiful ceremony. I was lucky enough to be in the right place at the right time. Otherwise, I would have missed witnessing this joyous occasion....
Grief is (a short doc)
This summer I had the opportunity to work with Back Lane Studios and make a short doc. The goal, as per usual, was to let grieving folks know they are not alone and to make everyone else a bit more familiar with what to do when friends, family and co-workers are...
Widow Wednesday #9
Widow Wednesday Welcome to Widow(er) Wednesday, where I share what worked, what didn’t work and what could work better. How to support the grieving: Accept that loss is a life-altering experience Time is a social construct and created through thinking. Grieving is an...