Category: Blog

12 May 2020

This article is a collaboration between Heike Mertins, author of “Grief is…” and Linda Stuart, creator of memorable ceremonies. Instinctively we come together when death happens.  The need to be comforted and the need to offer comfort is part of what it means to be human.  It gives those most greatly affected by the loss…

06 May 2020

It was a long time ago, when I was a young woman. The first time we went out I did not know he was a hunter. I was your typical naïve Bambi loving urbanite. I was not looking to date a hunter. Yet, regardless of the fact that he hunted, I liked this young man….

23 Apr 2020

    Cleaning off my dying laptop I came across this piece.  I wrote it at least 7 years ago as my niece is turning 15 and I refer to her as being 7. I have no recollection of writing it.  The odd things loss will do to a brain.  Though I wrote it as…

16 Apr 2020

This morning I saw my favourite jogger. I didn’t know there was such a thing. As I sipped my coffee and glanced out my window onto the street below I could see a figure clad all in black (ninja style) complete with facial covering.  Rhythmically, the ninja jogger pounded the pavement in my general direction. …

12 Apr 2020

I have been very angry these past weeks. I have spoken harshly to joggers who would run up right behind me without warning and pass me as if social distancing did not apply to them. I have lost it when the wife of the jogger that cut right in front of me less than a…

26 Mar 2020

My brother and husband both had terminal cancer. But, it was respiratory infections that ended their lives. Not covid-19 type of viral infections – just plain old regular respiratory infections. None of their caregivers were ill. The viruses were introduced into their homes by third parties who either didn’t know they were carriers or who…

18 Mar 2020

Gratitude is both next to impossible and essential when we are grieving. Don’t even think that I’m going to that place of being grateful because your loved one is no longer suffering or in heaven. That sort of thinking is flawed. That sort of gratitude is very messy and complicated – mostly because it stifles…

11 Mar 2020

At 18 I dove into the ocean of gratitude and never found shore ~Dr. Patch Adams~ What are you waiting for?

13 Feb 2020

1. Is he still alive? I thought he’d be dead by now. 2. But she lives in such a nice neighbourhood. I’m surprised she goes to AA. (only poor people are alcoholics?) 3. Wow! What did she do to deserve that? Upon learning that my brother and husband died 18 months apart: their deaths, my…

05 Feb 2020

Widow Wednesday

Messages of love
Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.
-Rumi
Pretty much everyone I know who has lost a loved one has told me a story of how they believed their loved one showed up in another form after they died. The time has come to accept these happenings as valid as well as valuable.

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