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Grief is… Thoughts of loss, struggle and new beginnings.

A note about “An Eclectic Life”

An Eclectic Life is home to blogger Heike Mertins’ musings and reflections on what it means to live with courage and laughter knowing our time here is limited.

Speaking openly about loss, grief and healing has become part, but not all, of what Heike does. After all, living an eclectic life is about embracing and exploring all life has to offer.

In 2010 Heike started to blog about the events, people and practices that amused and inspired her. It was a place to play, rant and sometimes poke fun of the seriousness of life. It was mostly a place of light.

An Eclectic Life changed, as all eclectic lives do, when Heike began to grapple with some of the more difficult aspects of what it means to live with loss and grief. Posts on resilience, starting over and how to collectively better support people whose lives have gone off-script followed. Many of these are responses to questions others have asked about her own personal caregiving or her grief journey: others, the result of reflective pondering and, sometimes, brisk dialogue.

Kirkus Review called Mertins’ 2017 book, Grief is, as “a thoughtful, honest take on the messy, complicated process of grieving.” Heike Mertins is currently working on her second book which promises to be insightful, funny and equally thoughtful – and most importantly, about moving forward and embracing this Eclectic Life.

About the Author

Heike Mertins is many things to many people. Most importantly, she is a proud mom and playful nana.

Prior to becoming an international author, Heike dedicated several years to supporting her husband, brother, mother and father in the last years of their lives.
Heike is a “multipotentialite” and connector. Professionally, she began her career in retail management working for Toys R Us and GAP International, where she was recognized for excellence. She returned to university to further her studies with the intention of undertaking work that would help improve the lives of others. Since graduating she has helped raise awareness (and funds) for cultural diversity through large multi-cultural events, supported inventors as the Director of Business Development and Marketing for the Canadian Innovation Centre and developed strategic plans for small businesses.

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Grief is…

Thoughts on loss, struggle and new beginnings
By Heike Mertins
Once upon a time, Heike was one of those capable and organized people who envisioned her own happily ever after. But when her brother and husband died eighteen months apart, both far too young, it hit her hard. On good days, she would find herself staring blankly into an abyss, and on bad days, being vertical was a big accomplishment. It took years to come to terms with her loss and begin to piece together her new normal.
This book documents the idiosyncrasies and mindboggling behaviour that accompany grief. It is the poignant portrayal of one woman learning to accept that grief is not something to move on from, but something that must become part of her story. At times angry, sad, raw, and painful, Heike shows us that grief can also be funny, edgy, and weirdly liberating. Anyone who is grieving will recognize themselves in her writing and find solace in not being alone. As bizarre as grief can be, it is normal, and there is hope.


Grief Support Group Worker

Thank you Heike for sharing your journey and telling it like it is. Your story has been tremendous aid to many.


Multiple Losses

I heard Heike speak in June of 2017. Heike was knowledgable, open, honest and approachable. She was unafraid to be vulnerable while discussing this difficult subject. She gave me a fresh new understanding of the process of grieving, and ideas to cope with challenging situations.


Multiple Losses

Through my readings of Grief is…this book resonated with my recent loss and brought to light ways I have been living and processing previous grief from many years ago. It helped to remind me that grief is a process and you are not alone in it.


Widowed at 75

I lost my wife, Sheila, December 23, 2011 when we were both 75. From my experience with Hospice, I find that many men feel being macho is the answer and don’t show their true feelings. Women are much more outgoing. I feel your book on grief has helped far more people than you realize.

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