A note from the Author
When someone learns that I’ve written a book they ask me
“so what’s your book about?
I usually answer this question by telling them a little about what the book is and about what it isn’t.
“ Well…” I’ll say “it’s a book about grief but it’s not a how to do grief book. It is simply a collection of some of the things I was feeling and thinking during the early years after I lost my husband and brother 18 months apart. It’s not explanatory. But people have told me that by sharing some of the painful and weird things I experienced that I do somehow end up indirectly explaining what it feels like to grieve.” I like that. I want those who aren’t grieving to better understand what it’s like to grieve and I want those who are grieving to know that grief is indeed weird, at times scary and also funny.

Everyone experiences grief differently. Unfortunately, this means there is no one fits all solution, no shortcuts and no magic pill. But, that’s okay too. Everyone does move forward. We all stumble but we also get back up. And each time we fall we learn something that helps us to heal and continue moving forward.

What this book does do is pull back the curtain on what it feels like to grief, how disorienting it can be and that there is hope. It does get easier. It’s divided into three sections reflective of what I call “the terrible awful beginning, the messy middle, and learning to live again.” There are entries about grief and food, grief and other people, and some of the peculiar things that challenged me.

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Stay well, Heike

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About the Author
Heike Mertins is many things to many people. Most importantly, she is a proud mom and playful nana.
Prior to becoming an international author, Heike dedicated several years to supporting her husband, brother, mother and father in the last years of their lives.
Heike is a “multipotentialite” and connector. Professionally, she began her career in retail management working for Toys R Us and GAP International, where she was recognized for excellence. She returned to university to further her studies with the intention of undertaking work that would help improve the lives of others. Since graduating she has helped raise awareness (and funds) for cultural diversity through large multi-cultural events, supported inventors as the Director of Business Development and Marketing for the Canadian Innovation Centre and developed strategic plans for small businesses.
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Grief is...
Thoughts on loss, struggle and new beginnings
By Heike Mertins
Once upon a time, Heike was one of those capable and organized people who envisioned her own happily ever after. But when her brother and husband died eighteen months apart, both far too young, it hit her hard. On good days, she would find herself staring blankly into an abyss, and on bad days, being vertical was a big accomplishment. It took years to come to terms with her loss and begin to piece together her new normal.
This book documents the idiosyncrasies and mindboggling behaviour that accompany grief. It is the poignant portrayal of one woman learning to accept that grief is not something to move on from, but something that must become part of her story. At times angry, sad, raw, and painful, Heike shows us that grief can also be funny, edgy, and weirdly liberating. Anyone who is grieving will recognize themselves in her writing and find solace in not being alone. As bizarre as grief can be, it is normal, and there is hope.
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Kathy
Grief Support Group Facilitator
Thank you Heike for sharing your journey and telling it like it is. Your story has been a tremendous aid to many.
Joy
Multiple losses
I heard Heike speak in June of 2017. Heike was knowledgable, open, honest and approachable. She was unafraid to be vulnerable while discussing this difficult subject. She gave me a fresh new understanding of the process of grieving, and ideas to cope with challenging situations.
Kieran
Multiple losses
Through my readings of Grief is...this book resonated with my recent loss and brought to light ways I have been living and processing previous grief from many years ago. It helped to remind me that grief is a process and you are not alone in it.
Don
Widowed at 75
I lost my wife, Sheila, December 23, 2011 when we were both 75. From my experience with Hospice, I find that many men feel being macho is the answer and don’t show their true feelings. Women are much more outgoing. I feel your book on grief has helped far more people than you realize.
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