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An Eclectic Life

Living Fearlessly

Grief, like most life changing experiences, teaches us something. Fully realizing that people I love will one day die and that "those sort of things" do NOT only happen to other people drove home the fact that to live well means to live more fearlessly and to fear...

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The Power of Story

I tell my grief story so that others will be more comfortable in telling theirs. Many thanks to Becky at The Death Dialogues Project for giving me the opportunity to share my story, laugh a little and speak candidly about why we need to collectively move forward in...

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Things I didn’t know (Living with Cancer)

Learning to live with cancer or any other illness is indeed about "learning". (depositphotos_173920254) Ten years ago, I wrote this piece but didn't publish it. I was too afraid to talk about all the screw-ups (learning opportunities) that happened as my late husband...

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Hope

What if…             we exhaled and let go of that breath we are all collectively holding? What if…             we recognized that we are all struggling, and...

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The Lighting of Three Candles

Though we may not be able to gather in our usual way this holiday season, it is still important to come together. Ritual is one way to connect with those we love. I hope this post from 2018 inspires you to create your own new ways of staying connected. -From the...

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2020: A Sense of Accomplishment

Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash We tend to associate a sense of accomplishment with doing or completing a task or project. Whether its painting a bedroom or hitting a million in sales, when we reach a goal we feel happy, proud and self-confident. For some people it...

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My Inner Crone

As I grow into my inner crone My hair will become silver, long and curls will abound The challenge will be to see if frizz wins out or if my crowning crone glory will simply become luxurious big hair I am grateful for the plethora of hair products that tame, sculpt...

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Widow Wednesday #13

Creating the life we want after loss is an ongoing process that involves intentionally engaging in situations that are new and unfamiliar. Fail forwards teach us to pivot to a happier life.

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Life lessons from my grandson and Wii bowling

As adults we sometimes forget to play. Yet, regardless of how old we are it is through playing that we learn about life and one another. It's not so important what we play but that we play. As for the lessons... they can be found pretty much everywhere. Here are 10 I...

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Rituals, Safe Spaces and Healing

All the platitudes are true.  It does get easier over time. You do move forward (not on). New life offsets old losses and love does help the heart to heal. I’ve also discovered that rituals and safe places connect people, allow us to express what words fail to do, and...

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Stretch Solutions for Difficult Situations

The message behind Adam Kahane's thinking is clear.  Even situations we may have resigned ourselves into accepting can be altered. His ability to simplify the complexity that exists within incredibly difficult situations (think South Africa’s transition from...

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