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Living Fearlessly
Grief, like most life changing experiences, teaches us something. Fully realizing that people I love will one day die and that "those sort of things" do NOT only happen to other people drove home the fact that to live well means to live more fearlessly and to fear...
The Power of Story
I tell my grief story so that others will be more comfortable in telling theirs. Many thanks to Becky at The Death Dialogues Project for giving me the opportunity to share my story, laugh a little and speak candidly about why we need to collectively move forward in...
REAL LIFE QUESTIONS
Would you try to reach out to someone and fix a relationship if you knew you were dying? Why not start before that happens? It's a better way to live. Stay well, Heike Image sources: Clipart-library.com, IMGBIN.com
Widow Wednesday #19-Resilience
Resilience: When poppies grow beside railroad tracks Dear Widows and Widowers, and those who love them, if you’re reading this post, you are resilient. In our society, simply reading and talking about death, dying, and rebuilding one’s life after a tragedy or trauma...
Widow Wednesday #18:Grief Class
A Pseudo Intellectual Goes to Grief Class Let the story begin… Strong and Independent I don’t do circles. I don’t sit in circles and share. I develop strategies, implement, pivot when required and, more often than not, I succeed. I am a competent woman who has...
Widow Wednesday #17 Flashbacks
Flashbacks are NORMAL Flashback: a past incident recurring vividly in the mind (Merriam-Webster) Though we often associate flashbacks with PTSD, it’s not uncommon to experience flashbacks after the loss of a loved one. I like to think of my flashbacks as snap...
Letting It Go
Will I Remember This In 5 Years? I needed to remind myself of what was important. So I came up with two questions to ask whenever I found myself worrying, feeling anxious, or falling down the dreaded rabbit hole. "Will I remember this in 5 years?" was the first of...
Widow Wednesday #16: Distraction, Escape and the courage to move forward
Covid-19 has it made it incredibly more challenging to support those struggling with loss. Without good support it’s easier to continue living in worlds we fill with distractions. The usual escape routes have been blocked. Even those courageous enough to...
I’ve Been Exposed
I was potentially exposed to Covid-19 on May 17, 2021. This happened while discussing the results of some neurological testing that had been completed a week earlier (I’m recovering from a concussion). I was potentially exposed to Covid-19 by a health care...
Widow Wednesday #15
Welcome to Widow Wednesday #15 Living with love Is it okay to keep on loving those we’ve lost? Is it okay to love and miss our moms after they die? Yes. Is okay to love and miss our dogs and cats after they die? (check out your Facebook feed) Yes. Is it okay to...
Is this you?
You're walking down the street. There is an older woman shuffling along with her full McCafe coffee cup. She has just left McDonald's. She's walking directly in front of you. There is another woman coming down the street towards you. She sees the older woman shuffling...
Powerful Bodies & Swishy Clothes
I have become one of many women over 50 who have discovered that the buddha belly is really a pre-determined feature of a woman’s aging body. Truth be told, it is a physical feature of most, in not all, aging bodies. I used to wonder about the number of stocky...