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Living Fearlessly
Grief, like most life changing experiences, teaches us something. Fully realizing that people I love will one day die and that "those sort of things" do NOT only happen to other people drove home the fact that to live well means to live more fearlessly and to fear...
The Power of Story
I tell my grief story so that others will be more comfortable in telling theirs. Many thanks to Becky at The Death Dialogues Project for giving me the opportunity to share my story, laugh a little and speak candidly about why we need to collectively move forward in...
Widow Wednesday #17 Flashbacks
Flashbacks are NORMAL Flashback: a past incident recurring vividly in the mind (Merriam-Webster) Though we often associate flashbacks with PTSD, it’s not uncommon to experience flashbacks after the loss of a loved one. I like to think of my flashbacks as snap...
Letting It Go
Will I Remember This In 5 Years? I needed to remind myself of what was important. So I came up with two questions to ask whenever I found myself worrying, feeling anxious, or falling down the dreaded rabbit hole. "Will I remember this in 5 years?" was the first of...
Widow Wednesday #16: Distraction, Escape and the courage to move forward
Covid-19 has it made it incredibly more challenging to support those struggling with loss. Without good support it’s easier to continue living in worlds we fill with distractions. The usual escape routes have been blocked. Even those courageous enough to...
I’ve Been Exposed
I was potentially exposed to Covid-19 on May 17, 2021. This happened while discussing the results of some neurological testing that had been completed a week earlier (I’m recovering from a concussion). I was potentially exposed to Covid-19 by a health care...
Widow Wednesday #15
Welcome to Widow Wednesday #15 Living with love Is it okay to keep on loving those we’ve lost? Is it okay to love and miss our moms after they die? Yes. Is okay to love and miss our dogs and cats after they die? (check out your Facebook feed) Yes. Is it okay to...
Is this you?
You're walking down the street. There is an older woman shuffling along with her full McCafe coffee cup. She has just left McDonald's. She's walking directly in front of you. There is another woman coming down the street towards you. She sees the older woman shuffling...
Powerful Bodies & Swishy Clothes
I have become one of many women over 50 who have discovered that the buddha belly is really a pre-determined feature of a woman’s aging body. Truth be told, it is a physical feature of most, in not all, aging bodies. I used to wonder about the number of stocky...
Things I didn’t know- Living with Cancer (part 3)
Skip me to the front of the line It started as just one more follow-up phone call to our insurance company to determine the status of my husband’s request to have a chemotherapy drug approved for coverage. After engaging in yet another conversation that left the...
Things I didn’t know (Living with Cancer Part 2)
OMG- I didn’t know about pre-authorized medications (drugs) Pre-authorized or prior authorization refers to the list of medications insurance companies will automatically cover through the insured’s drug plan. Insurance companies argue that this practice ensures...
The Old Normal
There is no such thing as returning to an “old normal.” The moment in which a “new normal” comes into being is also the moment in which the old normal ceases to exist. New normals and shifts challenge old ways and give rise to new ideas and knowledge. Once we know...