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Living Fearlessly

Grief, like most life changing experiences, teaches us something. Fully realizing that people I love will one day die and that "those sort of things" do NOT only happen to other people drove home the fact that to live well means to live more fearlessly and to fear...

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The Power of Story

I tell my grief story so that others will be more comfortable in telling theirs. Many thanks to Becky at The Death Dialogues Project for giving me the opportunity to share my story, laugh a little and speak candidly about why we need to collectively move forward in...

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Widow Wednesday #13

Creating the life we want after loss is an ongoing process that involves intentionally engaging in situations that are new and unfamiliar. Fail forwards teach us to pivot to a happier life.

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Life lessons from my grandson and Wii bowling

As adults we sometimes forget to play. Yet, regardless of how old we are it is through playing that we learn about life and one another. It's not so important what we play but that we play. As for the lessons... they can be found pretty much everywhere. Here are 10 I...

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Rituals, Safe Spaces and Healing

All the platitudes are true.  It does get easier over time. You do move forward (not on). New life offsets old losses and love does help the heart to heal. I’ve also discovered that rituals and safe places connect people, allow us to express what words fail to do, and...

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Stretch Solutions for Difficult Situations

The message behind Adam Kahane's thinking is clear.  Even situations we may have resigned ourselves into accepting can be altered. His ability to simplify the complexity that exists within incredibly difficult situations (think South Africa’s transition from...

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3 is a Magic Number

3 is a magic number aka the rule of three:  If you’re  stuck or having a hard time getting started on that long and maybe overwhelming to do list and you do three things or perform three actions, no matter how small, you create enough momentum to move forward on...

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Warrior Women

For all you Warrior Women and Warriors in general, another brilliant (updated) quote from Theodore Roosevelt. The Woman in the Arena It is not the critic who counts; not the woman who points out how the strong woman stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done...

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Raising a Future Leader Begins With Parental Self-Awareness

In today's blog I am chatting with Jules Hare, Author of Raise Future Leaders: 3 Simple Steps to Transformational Parenting. Heike:  Hello Jules. Thanks for taking the time to virtually chat about your new book “Raise Future Leaders: 3 Simple Steps to Transformational...

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Yes, We Are Adapting Beautifully

Some days still feel overwhelming.  But, I know we are all adapting beautifully.  And, yes, I know we are finding our way.  I know this because when I look at pieces I wrote some months back I can see how far we have all, collectively, come. This doesn't mean that we...

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Shi(f)t Happens

Shi(f)t Happens One day, out of nowhere, this thought came to me.  If it was possible for my life to become chaotic in an instant, then it is also possible that my life could become lighter again in an instant.  Why not?  It was an unexpected piece of bad news that...

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Widow Wednesday #12: Fight to be and stay inspired

Widow Wednesdays Welcome to Widow(er) Wednesdays. A new way for me to share what worked, what didn’t work and what could work better. Fight to be and Stay Inspired In the midst of all the pain and confusion that follows when we lose someone we love it is hard to...

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