Category: Living with Cancer

09 Nov 2017

Today I am excited to write that my book “Grief is… Thoughts on loss, struggle and new beginnings” is now also available in the U.S.  It can be purchased on-line through Barnes & Noble and Amazon.com.  It is also available as an ebook for Kindle (Amazon.com), Kobo(Chapters Indigo: Canada), iBooks (iTunes Store) and Google Play…

06 Nov 2017

Unfortunately, one of the things we don’t do well as a society is support those who grieve. This is not because we don’t want to but because we don’t know what to do. So I thought I’d share just a few of best things people did for me when my husband died. Hopefully, they will…

15 Jan 2014

Public support agencies can be a great asset to any community. They can provide much needed support to those who cannot otherwise afford it and they can act as a bridge service in times of crisis. However, there are many limitations you will be want to aware of if you are relying solely on this…

02 Apr 2013

One thing every “widow” I have met agrees about, and I have met several since becoming a widow eight and half months ago, is we all hate the word “widow”. It conjures up images of “The Black Widow” who kills her mates, old frail ladies who will now need to be taken care of, disheveled…

09 Dec 2012

One of the most difficult things, if not the most difficult thing, for me in coming to terms with my husband’s death has been trying to figure out where things went wrong and even if I think I know where things went wrong forgiving myself for making what I or we thought was the best…

14 Nov 2012

Often when someone we know becomes ill we want to help but are at loss of what to do or how to help. Here is a list of 10 things we found helped us to live through my husband’s illness. 1. Be understanding. Do not expect that your friend will be up for visiting, especially…

18 Sep 2012

Four years ago, my husband Richard (Professor Nutbrown) and I watched with great interest as Barack Obama ran for President. This was a historical moment. Richard became an adult in the 1960’s witnessing the civil rights movement and when I started public school there was one black child and one Indian child in my class….

21 Mar 2012

Kids are easily pushed to the side when someone in the family is diagnosed with cancer.  The shift to crisis mode and survival relegates them to the periphery or in other words shuts them out.  This is not only unfair, but can rob both the kid and the loved one of the joy that existed…

26 Apr 2011

It is not a coincidence that I haven’t blogged since January and that this post is about things I wish I knew about cancer but didn’t. Someone I loved dearly passed away mid-January from aggressive renal (kidney) cancer and it has not been in me to write publicly since then. But, when I read in…

05 Apr 2010

It is not a coincidence that I haven’t blogged since January and that this post is about things I wish I knew about cancer but didn’t. My brother passed away mid-January from aggressive renal (kidney) cancer and it has not been in me to write publicly since then. But, when I read in today’s about…