Shit Happens/ Life is Good

“Shit Happens” is sometimes the most appropriate and honest response there is. Though I had often used it in an off the cuff manner when a situation had gone wrong the sentiment that followed tended to be “Oh well. Let’s accept this happened and do our best to figure...

Grief is ugly crying. It is not elegant.

I’m secretly pleased that I’ve written a book on grief that is ‘not elegant’. Grief is not elegant. If the book was elegant it wouldn’t be honest nor do I think it would be helpful. Because my writings from the early days of grieving are raw they are not...

The holidays are…

The holidays are: a) an excuse to see friends and family, b) to eat and drink a lot, c) stressful, d) fun, e) busy, f) lonely, g) exhausting, h) a welcome break. How we complete this sentence is based on the stories we write and tell ourselves about what “the...

What to do when someone we love is grieving

Unfortunately, one of the things we don’t do well as a society is support those who grieve. This is not because we don’t want to but because we don’t know what to do. So I thought I’d share just a few of best things people did for me when my husband died. Hopefully,...