I shifted my thinking from “moving on” to moving forward” somewhere in the midst of living my grief story. It was such a relief to do this. Suddenly I didn’t have to forget what happened, I didn’t have to forget the person I loved most the world who had died and I didn’t have to pretend that I could pick up from where my life left off before loved ones became ill and died. Whew!
Grief and loss changes us irrevocably and it’s not all bad.
I am always grateful when I come across others who too are working to establish this shift as the new ‘norm.’ Here’s a link from a video done by the BBC last year that does just that. It’s lovely in its simplicity.
Stay well, Heike