Grief is ugly crying. It is not elegant.

I’m secretly pleased that I’ve written a book on grief that is ‘not elegant’. Grief is not elegant. If the book was elegant it wouldn’t be honest nor do I think it would be helpful. Because my writings from the early days of grieving are raw they are not...

It’s never the big things

A very short post. It’s kind of in keeping with “it’s the little things” theme. I know my friends well enough to know that they contribute to the community in many different ways AND I know they seldom talk about what they do. It’s just how they are. So when my friend...

The holidays are…

The holidays are: a) an excuse to see friends and family, b) to eat and drink a lot, c) stressful, d) fun, e) busy, f) lonely, g) exhausting, h) a welcome break. How we complete this sentence is based on the stories we write and tell ourselves about what “the...

What to do when someone we love is grieving

Unfortunately, one of the things we don’t do well as a society is support those who grieve. This is not because we don’t want to but because we don’t know what to do. So I thought I’d share just a few of best things people did for me when my husband died. Hopefully,...

I am a woman

I am a woman. This means it is highly likely I have ovaries, a uterus and a vagina. Together these enable my body to create a cellular change that is able to grow into a baby. This ability to create, support and give life does not make me stupid. It makes me powerful....