Tag: grief and hope

09 Oct 2019

Widow Wednesday Welcome to Widow(er) Wednesdays. A new way for me to share what worked, what didn’t work and what could work better. This week I continue tackling the subject of safe people. Who are the safe people? (Part 2) Many of the problems we encounter when we are grieving are due to the many…

28 Aug 2019

  Re-visiting last year’s Back-to-School post because some things do not change. The Labour Day weekend marks the end of summer and the beginning of fall. Bathing suits and beach umbrellas are put away and new jeans and knapsacks donned. Today I am thinking of those that find themselves surprisingly thrown by how different it…

21 Aug 2019

Widow Wednesday Welcome to Widow(er) Wednesday, where I share what worked, what didn’t work and what could work better. How to support the grieving: Don’t give up on your friends (Part 1) Don’t give up on your friends. Invite them repeatedly to social functions.  If they decline or cancel keep inviting them.  If you’re concerned…

22 Apr 2019

I tell my grief story so that others will be more comfortable in telling theirs. Many thanks to Becky at The Death Dialogues Project for giving me the opportunity to share my story, laugh a little and speak candidly about why we need to collectively move forward in our understanding of loss, grief and new…

15 Feb 2019

I shifted my thinking from “moving on” to moving forward” somewhere in the midst of living my grief story. It was such a relief to do this. Suddenly I didn’t have to forget what happened, I didn’t have to forget the person I loved most the world who had died and I didn’t have to…

21 Dec 2018

Special thanks to Linda Stuart, Life Celebrant who recently introduced me to this ritual. The first candle is lit for those who have come before us and are no longer with us. We light it to acknowledge the gifts their presence in our lives bestowed upon us, whether they were mentors, friends or family. The…

07 Dec 2018

This lovely picture was taken last Christmas. It was taken at the home of the couple that opened their arms to my daughter, her boyfriend, our dog and me the first Christmas after my husband’s death. Are there any pictures from that Christmas? No. Was the day emotional, funny, awkward, and surreal? Was sorrow present?…

30 Nov 2018

Holidays after a major loss are messy. There are so many things to disentangle. Holidays and family gatherings are emotional under the best of circumstances. And a holiday gathering after loss is so far from the best of circumstances that I’m inclined to say it verges on the paranormal. Well, not really, but it sometimes…

03 Sep 2018

  The Labour Day weekend marks the end of summer and the beginning of fall. Bathing suits and beach umbrellas are put away and new jeans and knapsacks donned. Today I am thinking of those that find themselves surprisingly thrown by how different it all feels this year. I’m hoping their teachers, fellow students and…

20 Apr 2018

Grief is… missing being loved by the person you lost. ~Heike Mertins~ We always talk about missing the person we’ve lost, but, we seldom speak of missing being loved by those we’ve lost. I think it’s an important piece in understanding what it feels like to grieve. Today I’m being grateful not only to have…