The Lighting of Three Candles

Special thanks to Linda Stuart, Life Celebrant who recently introduced me to this ritual. The first candle is lit for those who have come before us and are no longer with us. We light it to acknowledge the gifts their presence in our lives bestowed upon us, whether...

Welcoming Grief At The Holidays

This lovely picture was taken last Christmas. It was taken at the home of the couple that opened their arms to my daughter, her boyfriend, our dog and me the first Christmas after my husband’s death. Are there any pictures from that Christmas? No. Was the day...

Holidays after loss

Holidays after a major loss are messy. There are so many things to disentangle. Holidays and family gatherings are emotional under the best of circumstances. And a holiday gathering after loss is so far from the best of circumstances that I’m inclined to say it verges...

The holidays just are…

There are so many ways to complete that sentence. The holidays are… an excuse to see friends and family, an excuse to eat and drink a lot, fun, stressful, busy, lonely, exhausting, a chance for a welcome break. However we choose to complete this sentence is a...