The Lighting of Three Candles

Though we may not be able to gather in our usual way this holiday season, it is still important to come together. Ritual is one way to connect with those we love. I hope this post from 2018 inspires you to create your own new ways of staying connected. -From the...

Things not to say

1. Is he still alive? I thought he’d be dead by now. 2. But she lives in such a nice neighbourhood. I’m surprised she goes to AA. (only poor people are alcoholics?) 3. Wow! What did she do to deserve that? Upon learning that my brother and husband died 18 months...

Widow Wednesday #9

Widow Wednesday Welcome to Widow(er) Wednesday, where I share what worked, what didn’t work and what could work better. How to support the grieving: Accept that loss is a life-altering experience Time is a social construct and created through thinking. Grieving is an...

Merry Christmas: Bah Humbug

Merry Christmas: Bah Humbug The holidays are different after loss. It cannot be otherwise. Just as Christmas changed as we grew into adulthood It must also change as we grow into life after loss This takes time Sometimes we yearn for the innocent excitement and joy of...