Tag: christmas and grief

25 Dec 2019

Merry Christmas: Bah Humbug The holidays are different after loss. It cannot be otherwise. Just as Christmas changed as we grew into adulthood It must also change as we grow into life after loss This takes time Sometimes we yearn for the innocent excitement and joy of childhood Sometimes we yearn for the innocent joy…

21 Dec 2018

Special thanks to Linda Stuart, Life Celebrant who recently introduced me to this ritual. The first candle is lit for those who have come before us and are no longer with us. We light it to acknowledge the gifts their presence in our lives bestowed upon us, whether they were mentors, friends or family. The…

16 Dec 2018

Recently someone pointed out to me that the holidays can be further complicated when some family members are once again ready for the joy of the holidays and others are not. This is true no matter what holiday is being celebrated. First, I want to say that I don’t know why some people are able…

19 Dec 2016

A message of hope Facebook isn’t always great. In the last few weeks I have seen “memories” of times I’d forgotten about. I remember well posting those photos during the first few years after Richard passed: sometimes out of a need to document the sadness that masked itself as in your face anger and black…

13 Dec 2016

There is no point is saying the holidays are difficult for those who are grieving. It’s a foregone conclusion. But, as it is one of my personal missions to share with others the lessons I’ve learned from being on the other side of the abyss I am compelled to blog about ways we can help…

30 Nov 2016

The holidays are coming. In my case, it’s Christmas. The next few blog entries will be either new writings on surviving the holidays and grief or excerpts from what I hope will be my soon to be released book “Really?!? This is normal? Thoughts on grief, struggle and starting over”. I’m hoping these writings will…

12 Dec 2013

Thank you to those of you who have written and wished us well this holiday season and also for asking how we are doing. I thought I’d do an open letter to answer your questions. It’s a bit of a kick back to when I actually enjoyed writing in that it’s a list and I…